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Monday, June 27, 2016

I was reading about thank yous and this one came up:
emotionally-abusive relationship

7. If Your Partner Always Holds you Accountable if Anything Goes Wrong

6. If Your Partner Puts you Down when Other People are Around

5. If Your Partner is Exceedingly Jealous

4. If Your Partner Expects you to do Everything

3. When Your Partner Manipulates you

2. When Your Partner tends to Isolate you from Others

1. When the Partner is being Verbally Abusive


It is painful for both of you, but more on the person being abused, as he/she has become more dependent on the other  one, that he/she forgets to love himself/herself.

One has to fill up the love tank and it cannot be nourished back if it is not refilled. The first person do that is the abused one, and it starts by loving yourself.

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Leather

I loved a lot. I may have loved too much. But I love(d) deeply and wholeheartedly.

I have trusted. I have been betrayed. I trusted once more. Yet some things were kept from me. I managed to find out without really trying. The quote from Ibong Adarna keeps on reminding me "Walang lihim na hindi nabubunyag."

Cover-ups, I also had my share.

I have decided to move on. I know I cannot forget. But I can make the best of what I have. YOLO.


Friday, June 21, 2013

"Free Accommodation"

I went to Manila Food and Beverage Expo (MAFBEX) last Friday, 15 June 2013. I was there for:
1. Curiosity
2. I like food expo
3. Food products
4. Utensils and equipment
5. Free food and drinks!

There was a booth that offered raffle coupons. I filled up around 4 of them, if I remember right.

Saturday.
I got a text that I was selected to stay in Puerto del Sol. I have to claim my gift certificate in their office in Renaissance Tower, Ortigas Center, Pasig City. Since I am familiar with the place, I thought this could be true. But I had to bring my husband and stay for 90 minutes of AVP presentation so that we could choose from their chains of hotels and resorts. I thought 90 minutes is too long. I did not go and they continued texting me for a few days.

Sunday.
I got a call that I (and my husband) won a free stay at Canyon Woods and we have to claim it at their office in ACT Tower in Buendia Ave., Makati City. Again I am familiar with the building. There would be a 4-hour presentation so that they could offer/present all their hotels and resorts to us. But there was no follow-up and I also know that is not the actual office of Canyon Woods. Just a promoter of their resort, perhaps?

Sunday night.
I googled about those two and found them to be a hoax. The "winners" would have to pay a booking fee. Also, they are not affiliated with the said resorts.

Monday.
I got a call from Club Ultima and she said that I was referred by someone who stayed in Crown Regency Cebu. Hmmm, I don't know anyone who did stay there or refer me. The club's office is at West Ave., Quezon City. Also, there is a 90-minute presentation. This Club Ultima called me several times. They have a Yesterday, I asked if I could come with a friend instead of my husband, she said no. I asked why not, when I was the one who filled up the form, she said that's how it works. Remember, I was supposed to be referred here

Common denominator:
- attend as a couple, bring valid IDs
- no money involved
- long presentation
- free food

But I did not go to any. At least not my time nor money was wasted for these hoaxes.

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Monday, December 10, 2012

A Review of Rama Hari

Rama Hari is adapted from the Indian epic Ramayana. Since I would be talking about the performance, I will focus on that.

The show just ran for more than a week at the Cultural Center of the Philippines, from November 30 to December 9, 2012. Singers were the voices of the lead characters. The performance is more about the ballet dance. The music was done by Ryan Cayabyab. I apologize I forgot the conductor. The chorale was Concert Chorus.

The dance, music and songs were good. Though there were some problems regarding the sound system, i.e. the lapel mike of the one singing for Hanuman was not working. but when he was off-stage, it was replaced. The lapel mike of the one singing for Rama was choppy. The stage set was very simple. Since there was a translation of the song which was projected at the stage top, I would say that the translation is not accurate. Moreover, when the verses/lines of the songs were repeated, there were no more projections. Yes, there were foreigners among the audience.

Though I did  not give it a standing ovation, I hope this dance will open doors to local performances that the Filipinos would appreciate.

For more information, read http://www.clickthecity.com/events/details.php?id=16504

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Thursday, July 12, 2012

Excess Baggage?

This was supposed to be published February 2010, but I had some internet connection problems.



I usually travel within the Philippines, like twice or thrice a year, for personal and business purposes. For business, we use PAL since it is required. Perhaps I have become accustomed to having a baggage allowance of 20kg.

My flight last Monday from Davao to Manila used Cebu Pacific Air. I forgot that their allowance is only 15kg. Mine weighed 21kg. I only had Php400 in my wallet. plus an ATM card. The charge is Php100/kg. I still have to pay the terminal fee of php200 since I am in Davao International Airport. The lady at the check-in counter would not allow me to hand carry the other bag even if it weights only 7kg. She said it is too big. Reading the guidelines, PAL has a measurement of 44 inches of hand carry, while Cebu Pacific has no guidelines on such. My other bag measures only 25 inches.

The ATM at the airport is out of order by the way. I had to call friends who would be departing on a later flight to let me borrow money.

I really found it very troublesome and unfriendly.


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Review on RJM

This was published last year in my multiply.







It has been quite a while since I blogged. Been busy with Facebook. Hahaha! Plus, I got married, hence the very good excuse for being busy. Wedding has been good, marriage is fine. :)

I am here to give a feedback on our wedding video. It was shot by Photos du Monde Philippines (they had great photography by the way and I am very happy with it.) However, video editing was costly so I had to look for another. I have met with Gem Ruiz, he showed me good samples, but one of the video cameras was in HD version, while the other was SD. Mr. Ruiz only had SD but he was nice in treating me as a client. He managed to convert the tapes from the SD camera to CD format. Next, I had someone from UP Diliman but he was bound for Singapore so I just asked him to convert and transfer the HD tapes to CD. He did so. :)

However, I had our wedding video "edited" by RJM (Digital Photography and Videography). I was hoping the outcome would be good. the price was Php6,000, way higher than Mr. Ruiz's. When I watched the video, I was not happy with the way it was edited. It was like they got the video from only one camera. I had six tapes, three for each camera. To think that they had my tapes for two or three months, and when I was about to claim the video, they were not yet finished with it. I texted them my feedback and I did not get any reply, at all. Bad customer service and bad outcome. Tsk tsk tsk. I watched the video with my mother and my sister, who is getting married next year, and the latter is not satisfied with the product, thus she rejects the idea of having RJM for her wedding.

As my husband watched it, he said they did not edit, they only compiled.

Monday, April 02, 2012

A Weekend at Acuatico

Having been away from my family, and because we enjoy swimming, I decided that for my vacation, we would go swimming at Acuatico. It is a beach resort located 4 hours from Manila, but the long trip was worth it. This resort in Laiya, San Juan, Batangas, caters to client needs and everyone who goes in never leaves unsatisfied. They have great food, courteous staff, nice accommodations and clean facilities. They also have other recreation such as play room for toddlers, dart boards, table tennis, basketball and badminton courts and even spa.

We stayed here overnight so that we can also relax from the drive and from the busy life.



Selected some photos for posting here but more are available at my multiply site.

The "floating bar"

The infinity pool

Jacuzzi

Monday, March 19, 2012

Loving Someone Unconditionally

Giving unconditional love requires you to love without any expectations. It seems difficult to only love and not demand anything in return in today's world where everyone is selfish and egotistic. But even in this world we see many examples of unconditional love, for example the love of a mother to her child, the love between two life partners and the love bestowed upon siblings. Loving someone unconditionally means we have to learn how to sacrifice our selves, our desires, and most importantly our egos for we are not suppose to expect anything from the person we love.

It's true that love makes its way itself. When we love somebody with so much passion and emotion, it's sure to come round in one way or another. But if somehow we don't get as much as we give, we must realize not to complain or argue because in order to love someone else unconditionally, we must first love ourselves and accept the fact that as humans we all have faults and blemishes, and will inevitably make mistakes. We must be aware of our own imperfections and realize that since we are not perfect, others won't be either. Always keep in mind that loving others and giving them everything we have will make us satisfied and happy with ourselves.

At some point in our lives we all demand some kind of love and want to express our own love for someone. Believe in the principle of giving more and demanding less. When someone asks you for a favor always be ready to give it. Never complain that you don't have enough or you have other tasks to do. Set your priorities in such a way that everyone else comes first and your own demands come last.

Let us keep in our hearts that when we love somebody unconditionally, we want the best for that person. Think positively about them even if they make mistakes or do not return our feelings. Give them sincere advice about their future and other decisions. Always look around for the betterment of your loved ones without any envy on your part. If you have to sacrifice something of your own for them, don't hesitate to do so. Only then you will truly be able to love unconditionally.

Remember that unconditional love is given without any expectations or limitations. We don't define any scope of our love or that how long will we love a person. This is an eternal feeling which should be kept alive in all circumstances and all situations. We must never lose hope and keep on loving people who are dear and close to us, only then we will be able to live a completely satisfied and emotionally balanced life. - ALDRIN PURUGGANAN

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Wednesday, September 15, 2010

A letter to friends and family


30 August 2010

Dear Family & Friends,

After serving for more than a decade as missionaries for Couples for Christ and after even going for long-term mission in Africa together, Clarke and Cynch Nebrao discover that their only 10-month old son Chino has severe mitral regurgitation with mild stenosis, Simply put, the Nebraos’ third child has a defective heart valve. The condition affects only 2% of the world’s population and survival rate is only 5%. Open heart surgery to treat baby Chino’s condition, including hospitalization expenses and medications is going to cost around Php 2 million or USD 45, 000.

This is why, we, a group of Clarke and Cynch’s friends came together to talk about what could be done to help them during this trying time. Concretely, we would like to invite you to help raise a portion of the funds Chino needs to get a chance to live. We are writing this letter to ask for any amount you could spare for Chino’s cause. We need 2,000 generous souls to give, at least, Php 1,000 (USD 20) each. Also, your prayers and gestures of support to the Nebrao family would work wonders.

His doctors say that he needs to undergo surgery before he turns one; he turns one in October. This is why his cause is pretty urgent. We would appreciate it very much if you would help spread the word and take up Chino’s cause as your own and pray for his healing.

You can deposit your donations to:

Cynthia Marie Adalla-Nebrao

Account Number. 3106523407

Bank of the Philippine Islands (BPI)

Edsa-Greenhills Branch

For more information about baby Chino’s condition and how you can help, please visit www.championsforchino.com. You can also donate via Paypal on the website. Follow baby Chino, as well, on Twitter @champions4chino.

Love,

Champions for Chino

Meeting LBP Again

It's been years since I had used LBP (Landbank of the Philippines) facilities. I know they are almost always offline, and that their ATMS are offline or hung, and they keep people waiting for about two hours to transact inside their banks.

Today, I had to use their machine. Guess what - one was offline, two were not operating, and one had difficulty transaction (read: hung). As per bank employee, in the whole country, LBP is offline!

Thus, my attempts failed. I had to use another bank to fulfill my transaction, with fees at that.

LBP is very rich, I know, yet their services and facilities are ancient.